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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So, criticizing a host is never okay, and your DH needs to tell his mother to back off.

That being said, OP you have not clarified whether your MIL would prefer hosting/has offered to host. DCUM doesn't tend to agree with me on this, but for some people (like me) having home cooked meals on certain holidays is a critical part of the holiday. If you are insisting on hosting and catering instead of letting someone who really does want to do the cooking do it, it can detract from the holiday for them. Just a thought.[/quote]

MIL doesn’t want to host. Last year all the holidays were hosted by me. She likes our house better-it’s bigger, lighter, etc plus we have a huge backyard. They live in a patio home with no yard. [/quote]

Here's where you can change the mindset. You and your DH should host but if there are traditions or preferences that he has from childhood, it is his responsibility to deal with them. From your OP, no matter what you do, it's not likely that your MIL will approve. So don't change. That doesn't mean your DH can't change if keeping her happy is what he wants.[/quote]

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