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[quote=Anonymous]I'm like this.

It's been an issue in my past relationships - but I've matured and I try to see it from both sides. I often fail miserably.

Maybe it's a generational thing - or simply "love languages" or maybe it's an emotional maturity thing...I'm not entirely sure. But I don't "do phone" or constant connection throughout my day. I find it irritating - no matter the relationship or stage within one. When I'm at work - I focus on work. I don't need nor desire constant checking in. I rarely text and I never proactively text - I respond when necessary to questions needing it but I don't like "hey, how's your day" texts or daily minutiae. And then if I'm pushed more to communicate simply because - and to only make someone feel better - then I feel resentful - that it's not about wanting to connect with me as much as it is controlling me. That's the immature part of me - but I don't want forced communication - why would you?

If I'm on travel, I savor the alone time outside of working. It's generally only for a few days and I like the solitude of not having to speak to anyone or answer to kids/spouse and just be in my own head.

All that to say - you have to be able to express that to your partner so they don't take it as a personal affront or think that it's about the state of the relationship. Some people are wired differently. I don't equate phone time to affection to caring or respect. I simply don't tie these things together.

So just talk to DH - but also check yourself. Why do you feel the need to talk to him every day while he's working? If you want him to give a little - perhaps you should too.

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