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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Am I the only one that thinks it's weird that a grown man is going to a "sports practice" that clearly isn't involving coaching his kid? How important could that possibly be?[/quote]

He plays on a team and they have practice tonight - I'm failing to see what is strange about this.  [/quote]

In our house DH (who doesn't have sports practices but does have other meetings and practices every week) would probably offer to stay home with the kids so I could go. Or I'd stay home and he'd go to the concert. Does your DH know the boy's situation as fully as you do, OP? Does he get, as you do, that having at least one of you there would really be supportive and kind? Missing a regularly scheduled weekly activity is not the end of  the world nor is it "letting down the team." I'd bet other players on his team miss practices at times to attend their kids' school events (or miss practice to make it possible for their spouses to attend events). And yeah, he's not your kid, but your own kids are still several years away from having school activities in the evenings. So it's not like DH is going to miss practice lots of times for kid stuff. Being kind to this kid right now might help him out next time he's feeling a bit left out and then remembers you or DH came just to see him.

If you're worried the boy will start to expect you at all his events, please don't. You can handle future invitations as they come up. And it's nearly the end of the school year so it's not like he'll have a lot more of these events in coming months. By next school year you'll have a new baby and may truly be unable to attend if he invites you to something. So why not make an extra effort to attend this time? Adults can give up one night of their activities to make an exception for a child whom they know as well as you seem to know this boy who's in your house all the time. I'd talk to DH. If DH won't give up even one practice I'd hope he'll change that approach when your own kids have events.[/quote]

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