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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Marry him?[/quote]

I’ve thought about this. I worry, though, because he hasn’t even met my children, and it would be a huge change for everyone involved in a very short amount of time. Seems like a recipe for disaster. [/quote]

Well, you're friends, you love him and he's suggested marriage. At 5 weeks, you both need to have the fast hard talk. Get an overnight sitter and hole up for 24 hours to figure it out. He has the means and from what he says, the desire to be with you and baby. [b]He knows you have kids and still offered this commitment which means he is committed to your family. [/b]It's the best possible scenario.

Lot of details to work out but it can work.[b] As long as your kids are loved and included in the process, they will be ok! You're not blending family, this will be their baby too! 9 months is a long time in kid time, they'll be ok![/b] [/quote]

[b]Or he's a single man-child with no actual idea about what it means to commit or be a father [/b]and so irresponsible he can't be trusted to use birth control when he's not ready for a baby. And getting married and bringing a baby and step parent into the home is not "including children in the process". It's forcing them into a situation I'm sure they wouldn't choose.

OP, it comes down to the kids you have already. Don't force them into a step parent situation because the irresponsible grown up you were having sex with doesn't want HIS child aborted. If he wants a baby so much, he can have one with a surrogate.[/quote]

Has he ever expressed interest in meeting your children? Has he ever offered to help raise them too? What does he think fatherhood will be like? If all he's willing to throw at the problem is money (and not late night feedings, driving the big kids to activities, splitting drop off/pickup, etc) then don't have a kid with him.[/quote]

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