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[quote=Anonymous]The only cure for this is to stop telling your MIL about how much time your mom spends with the kids.  Honestly.  Your DH needs to get on board too.  No amount of rationalizing and explaining will do ANYTHING other than stoke her deep fear that she is Not Loved The Most.

My MIL is like this too.  She is a loving grandmother and I encourage her relationship with my kids.  But she just misses the mark a lot of the time when it comes to bonding.  But my kids are little and I know this will get a bit better when they aren't toddlers.  I want my  kids to have a good relationship with her!  But all she sees is: What is the OTHER GRANDMA DOING?  It's nuts because it hurts my relationship with her more than anything else.

So we just stopped telling her.  My DH agreed his mother was irrational.  So a lot of this falls to him.  He just mentions things we do and leaves out if my mother is there or not.

To get ahead of negative comments: my mother lives 10 minutes away and my MIL is about an hour.  So obviously her visits require a bit more planning.  Which is fine!  But she doesn't see it that way....[/quote]

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