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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it's doable, but you will need to hire a nanny. (AP + daycare could also work, but you've ruled that out for now.)

My DH and I are similar-ish. He an ER doc at a major teaching center w/ admin responsibilities & active research, so he has a fair amount of scheduling flexibility way in advance and basically none at the last minute. He works 50-60 hours a week, including a number of nights and weekends. I am a government lawyer in a moderately-demanding position (50ish hours/week + a few days of travel every month or two) with flexibility within reason and an understanding boss. We have 3 kids under 5.

Our lives are insanely busy and would be actually impossible if we didn't have a nanny w/ a flexible schedule (50 hours/week). You cannot both have somewhat inflexible jobs and small children and use (exclusively) daycare w/o driving yourselves absolutely insane. Once that's covered, I think you can manage providing your job looks more like mine and less like big law ("flexibility within reason"), which it sounds like it does... but I can't be entirely sure. Also, you only have one kid, so that's way easier.

As an aside, you absolutely cannot schedule around your kid's bedtime being 6:30 long term. You'd need to block out 4:30-8ish if that was really your plan to get through the next few years.[/quote]

OP here, yeah, the resounding information seems to be to hire a nanny. That makes me a bit sad because we absolutely love our daycare, as does our DD. I honestly think we might be able to handle it with one child for now, as long as we have a couple great backup sitters for the days when it's impossible. Hiring a cleaner also is high on our list.

It's also great advice regarding the bedtime. I keep forgetting that's going to be pushed back as she gets older, haha.

Thanks again everyone! I've been reading all of your comments and advice and it's really helped me. I'm going to see how the negotiation process goes and take it from there. But truly, this has been very helpful.[/quote]

I agree OP - with one kid, you might be able to make daycare work and I wouldn't throw everything out before trying it. That could cause even more stress especially if you love your daycare! If it doesn't work, you know you can look to transition into nanny as a backup. Good luck! [/quote]

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