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[quote=Anonymous]You have to give up the notion that you will get external recognition and praise for what is really your own personal decision.  You are SAH because it is worth it to you and that has to be enough.

There were times over the years when it all felt so thankless.  There were days when the kids were being handfuls and my nerves were a bit frayed.  My husband would have a trying day at the office and he would walk in the door feeling grouchy.  Instead of noticing that I had managed to get the floors scrubbed and the carpet vacuumed, he would complain about the ceiling fans being dusty....So much for my external validation.

It wasn't bad like that most of the time but on the days that were like that, it was a real downer.  I learned that I needed to make it a point to do things that made me feel good each and every day.  Exercising, volunteering, reading classics with the kids, visiting my mom, taking the kids to fun places, meeting a friend for lunch, etc.

In other words, you must find intrinsic value/reward to what you are doing.  Do not rely on your husband or your kids to validate your worth because they will have bad days when they simply will not be able to do that.  You have to know in your heart that what you are doing is important.  [/quote]

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