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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]For all the pps are who are arguing that the dh shouldn't have to be the primary parent/hh manager because he also works full-time and makes 200k: It was a mutual decision to prioritize her significantly higher paying job. He agreed to this. It sounds like he enjoys the material rewards of a partner who earns as much as OP does. For this arrangement to work, he (as the lower earning spouse) has to do the lion's share of the domestic work. OP shouldn't have to think about anything except her work.

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Why push a square peg into a round hole?   This is not his skillset.   Together they make an extraordinary amount of money.  Enough to hire someone like the pp who listed out her duties above.  A person like that would absolutely change the dynamic between op and her dh.   Apparently op has the aptitude for it, but not the time.  Her dh has the time, but not the aptitude.  So take some of that $600k hhi and hire someone capable of the work.  Smart people delegate tasks to the most capable.  Trying to force the dh to take on household tasks he’s not good at and has no interest in makes zero sense, unless op’s goal is to punish him rather than partner with him. [/quote]

He agreed to take on that work. We don’t know whether he has the aptitude, because he has not even tried. [/quote]

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