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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would fly to CA. Ask your brother to schedule an appointment with the doctor so the 3 of you can sit down and talk face to face. Ask to speak with the doctor alone too, if necessary. Forget about his family issues, his mental health should be the focus. [/quote]

From one of the pro-boundaries PPs, do NOT do this.  It establishes a terrible precedent.  Moreover, you can't speak to the doctor alone about your adult brother's health issues, in that the doctor won't disclose anything unless your brother signs a disclosure form.  You don't even necessarily want him to do that; he's a reasonably functional adult, not someone over whom you have guardianship.  If anyone should take him to this appointment, it's his wife.

Hold. Those. Boundaries.[/quote]
[b]You speak as someone who has never dealt with mental health issues.[/b] It is scary and isolating for the patient. Risk of suicide is real. OP’s brother has reached out to her for hell. It is not the time for boundaries. It is time to help him get a diagnosis and meds.[/quote]

You speak as someone with literally zero knowledge of who I am IRL.

OP can provide help, but not to the extent you suggest.  His WIFE is the family member to help him here, not his sibling.  Also, the brother has a diagnosis and meds.  The OP can provide help, but doing so to this extent sets the precedent that the OP will drop literally everything and place sibling above nuclear family.  The OP flying in isn't going to prevent suicide, either (and for you to imply that indicates you have very little knowledge of the actual risk factors for suicide).[/quote]

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