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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just focus on your parents and ensuring that they have adequate management of their resources.  Maybe preemptively ask them now “Well now that taxes are done, are you okay with everything in your financial planning?  If you’re finding that you need some help planning for future needs, etc I can help you get some names of planners who can help.  We’re frugal because we know there can be unexpected emergencies and I just want to be sure you’ll be okay.  I offered the same to Larla but they seem to have different priorities about being financially responsible.”[/quote]

This is insufferable taken to a new level.[/quote]

Really? How? It's "insufferable" to offer to help the parents with financial planning so that maybe OP doesn't end up funding their old age after sister sucks up their money?

So what do you recommend? Maybe that, in the name of "telling it like it is," OP should engage in drama and snark about her sister's crappy financial choices instead of acting like the adult in the room and ensuring her parents are thinking about their own futures?

I agree that the last dig about "they seem to have different priorities" is totally unnecessary but otherwise, this is good advice and hands over the financial discussion to a professional if the parents are willing to go that route.

What's insufferable are posters who use that term but then offer no ideas or suggestions of their own. You're no help to OP.[/quote]

SP- I think it’s insufferable because it’s so passive aggressive. Just say it like it is, directly, and kindly. “I’m worried about how much of your own money you give to Larla and her husband. Are you guys okay financially doing that? I worry because I envision a scenario where you run out of money and it’s a scary scenario.”[/quote]

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