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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Always thought I would want 2.   But I'm very happy with 1. [/quote]

I realized that my previous "desire" for two was actually a social pressure and not my own authentic feelings. [/quote]
Same. Especially because I had an easy, drama-free pregnancy and easy baby (breastfeeding was easy, he slept well very early on, perfectly healthy and happy). I actually loved being pregnant and I think that led to people assuming we would have more, and initially we were like, yeah, 2 sounds nice. But when I was honest with myself when the questions kept coming and coming about when we’d try again, I realized that I had a great experience I didn’t want to repeat again. For some reason, I received so much social pushback about that— including hints that I was somehow being selfish for not tempting fate and possibly having it not so easy the second time around. Now, my little boy is 6 and life is nice for us a family as we all get our needs met (I was going to say my dh and I split everything “evenly” so we never feel overwhelmed, but truthfully, he probably does more than I do, especially the emotional labor part) without feeling stretched. I like to travel or just enjoy our area and go here and there at the drop of a hat (thankfully DS just rolls with traveling and is a lot of fun), I like owning my own business, having time to work out, spend what I want, etc. I just can’t imagine having another one and feeling as free. I enjoy my friends’ and relatives’ kids and think the sibling dynamics are cute, but want zero part of a larger family day to day. [/quote]

Could have almost written this whole thing myself, sub DD for DS.[/quote]

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