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[quote=Anonymous]How long have you been married? If you’ve been working at this mystery job for the duration of your marriage, your spouse is presumably still alive? How have they coping this far? When did they get the diagnosis?

Something is off about your question. If it was so terrible, how did you make it this far? I think it’s notable that you haven’t actually tried any accommodations and spouse wants to go nuclear and ask you to quit.

This seems like the spouse recently got an unpleasant diagnosis and wants to blame your job for all their problems. Whatever medical issue they have is not going to be solved by you quitting. If you’re a vet and it’s allergies, someone else is going to be walking a dog in front of your house or in front of the grocery store, etc. If you’re a doctor and spouse is immunosuppressed, they’re going to be exposed to germs/viruses on the metro, at work, at restaurants, etc.

Spouse focusing on your job is a crutch - nothing more than a psychological defense mechanism so they have a tangible villain for their complicated health problem. This convenient villain also allows them to put off coping with their diagnosis. What happens when you quit your job and spouse still has symptoms?!? Will it still be your fault because you didn’t wash your hands after doing daycare drop off? Or because you went to a jog in the park? Once the job is out of the way, get ready for hyper focus on every little thing you do... [/quote]

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