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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  [b]I didn't write that I extended the invitation[/b], or that this is my mother.  Of course there is nothing else going on, otherwise I would have mentioned that as well.

I think DS feels it is important for her to be there.  I'm not particularly concerned with graduations personally, as I managed to avoid both my undergrad and graduate school ones, but it's not about me.  I think that's what irks me--it should be about DS, not about what we, the other adults, find convenient.

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Um...no. This is an invitation. It is to be accepted or declined. It's not a summons. Would it be nice if she came? Yes. But she is not obligated to if she doesn't want to, for ANY reason.

"I think DS feels"...well, what with being 18 and all, DS can get on the phone and talk to his grandma, with whom he is close, if he wants to.

You are warming up to really work yourself into a resentful place over this. Take a step back. [/quote]

I didn't say it wasn't an invitation, I said *I* didn't do the inviting.  Of course it's not a summons.

I clearly disagree that there is no obligation to attend important events in the life of your family.  Am I really the only one that thinks there *are* familial obligations?  [/quote]

I believe there are family obligations.  I do not believe that graduations are family obligations, at least not for anyone other than the graduate's parents.  They are not that big of a deal, there are lots of other ways to acknowledge someone's graduation, they are really boring, they often involve sitting for a long time in uncomfortable folding chairs and/or the sun, and you actually see very little of the graduate because they are busy with official events and friends.  Being really upset that someone does not want to sit in a huge crowd to witness, at most, 30 seconds of you walking across a stage is not reasonable.  [/quote]

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