Reply to is it common to hate your house a year after moving in?

Forum Index » Real Estate

Reply to "is it common to hate your house a year after moving in?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Last year, we sold my totally-redone house (bought it while single, fixed EVERYTHING over 10 years, so it was a new house in a gorgeous old Craftsman shell) in a quaint, quiet town we loved, and moved to a giant 5-bedroom house with a lot of land in the middle of nowhere.  I resisted it because I've already totally redone 4 houses in my life, and just didn't want to spend the rest of my life redoing ANOTHER wreck (I'm in my late 40's she's in her early 50's).  I ultimately caved because it seemed that this house would make her happy - she always wanted a pool, and this place had one.

18 months later, we've had 3 floods, septic issues, electrical issues, water pouring through the roof and foundation simultaneously, fireplace issues, an exploding heat/cooling system, and collapsing retaining walls causing a literal cascade of water-related issues. EVERYTHING needs replacement.  One small repair always leads to a larger repair and then - aha - something that requires contractors, permits, and money we don't have.  We've spent ALL of our savings just keeping this money pit from collapsing, and there are still tens of thousands of dollars of repairs waiting in the wings.  This house has become a full-time job that I have to PAY to do, and I dread coming home to a money pit that dominates our lives.  The amount of money we've spent has forced me to postpone my retirement indefinitely - we were set until this horrible decision.  Beyond that, I hate our new location and drive 20 minutes to our old town to everything anyway, because our only neighbors are trees and deer.

At this point I'd welcome a giant disaster so we could leave.  Or, at least I would. If she wants to stay, she can have it.  Lesson?  Stick to logic and reason guys, and don't cave to make someone happy - it ultimately just makes both of you miserable.  Also, don't use a realtor that's one of your wife's pals, or her home inspector who's real purpose was to facilitate a sale and NOT actually look at the house.

We traded a new house with great neighbors within 3 blocks of a great town, for a house in the middle of nowhere straight out of a Tom Hanks movie - but without the laughs.  At least out here, no one can hear me scream.

I've got a house for sale, if anyone is interested.  It's a bargain![/quote]

This hurts to read. Does your wife love it, at least? If not, could you cut your losses and move back to town? Wishing the best for you. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics