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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]“Bob, if you go to your friend’s house, we’ll miss out on our plan to go to the zoo. I don’t want to hang out on the Mall. This is exactly what I’m referring to when I say that you’re skipping out on family time. What gives?”[/quote]

OP here. I said this and he decided to leave anyway. Says he's coming back after an hour. The 15 minutes becoame an hour. See how this works? [/quote]

Then it’s about him choosing to disrespect you. Sounds like it’s time for a come to Jesus sit down do you really want to be in the marriage talk. Like you have to be ready with the name of a counselor. If he balks, then maybe it’s time to consider separating.

This won’t change with whining or wishing. You either have to let it go and never complain again or put it on the line. How important is this? [/quote]

It's very important because it comes down to trust. I cannot trust him to follow through with plans or be home when he says he will. Every time he does this I get hurt. [/quote]

Exactly. This is about trust. There are 5 factors that impact trust. If one of them is missing, then you don’t trust the other person. Clearly the reliability factor is super low. If just one of these is missing, then real trust is absent. 
1. CHARACTER
Is your spouse an honest and moral person?
2. COMPETENCE
Can your spouse handle tasks competently? If he has to take care of your son, will he give him soda or make good food choices. They might be exactly what you would do, but your kid would be well cared for. 
3. RELIABILITY
Does he say what he means and means what he says? If he says he will be home by 10am, can you count on that? 
4. WARMTH
Does he express genuine empathy and listens to you? Does he show care and interest in you?
5. STEWARDSHIP
Is he only concerned about what’s in it for him or is he able to put aside his needs for the greater good for others? 
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