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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My daughter is about to graduate from college and she was talking about some of the girls on her campus who are already engaged.  In some ways, she described it as a cop-out.  Getting married and having kids is easier than having to go through all that shit:  THe crappy room in the row house on capitol hill, the crappy first apartment;  the first job; the job hunt.  The ones who are getting married seem to be preoccupied with home furnishings and pinterest pages while everyone else is thinking about things like resumes and budgets.[/quote]

I think this is a really unfair categorization on your and your daughter's parts that ignores the nuanced, complex lives that most of us live. First of all, no one is obligated to live in a group house or crappy first apartment or have a 20 year hard-charging career before settling down to be a card-carrying adult, and furthermore, marriage and a job or career are not mutually exclusive. Can you blame a young engaged person for being more thrilled about a wedding than a $45K job? In many ways, sharing those expenses with a partner is MORE mature and responsible and financially advantageous. Which is not to say one should feel compelled to partner up.

I think that your post has an ugly, maybe jealous?, tone, which I get, but you should realize this isn't a zero sum game -- everyone has feelings of grass-is-greener, and we just do the best we can. [/quote]

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