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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband pulled this shit and I stopped it full stop. For a full 3 years my husband went to ZERO games, practices, meets, scrimmages NADA. I told him if he wanted to stay married to me he better make sure I never see him any any sporting event ever.  I have 4 kids and this meant I used almost all my PTO those years making sure everyone got everywhere but I was not going to ruin my kids childhoods over my husbands "competitiveness".  He finally snapped out of it and asked to start going to stuff but my one son still says no and he knows thats his right.  I really would have left my husband over it too, I wasn't bullshitting. I won't let anyone talk down to my kids under the disguise of sports.  Sports should give your child confidence, not take it away! We are a zero sum family. We know the score doesn't matter and getting exercise, making friends, and building skills are what matters. We really came together as a family and shamed my husband which is what needed to happen. [/quote]

frankly OP should probably consider this approach. it does not seem that her husband is going to improve, especially given the BS about teaching life skills and kids becoming losers and so on. OP should ask her kids if they still want to do sports, if they say no, they can stop and she needs to fight the war with the husband not the kids. when the husband takes the kid at 7am to the backyard and the kid does not want to go she should step in. sounds like the only way to protect the kids is really getting into a gigantic fight but the alternative is letting the husband ruin the kids and eventually the family. he can coach other kids if he likes but he should leave his kids alone. pushing kids a little may be ok, we all do it here and there, sometimes more than we should, but having 7 and 9 yr old kids coming home in tears from being in the car with dad is awful. and OP;s son is clearly harboring huge resentment against his father, given choice words he had for his father, things are going to go out of control when kids are teens and sports become a lot more competitive. better going to war now than getting a divorce in a few years with kids hating the father.  [/quote]

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