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Your husband is HORRIBLE, not for expecting progress, but for criticizing instead of coaching, or paying for a coach. He cannot expect a child to magically divine how to get better. Certain kids need very specific and hands-on instruction and more practice than other kids.

He needs to accept who his child is and understand how to work with him constructively, otherwise he's just going to be one of these abusive and detested parents who never get visited in nursing homes.

My husband used to be this way, over academics, and I told him EXACTLY that. He backed off.
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OP here.  Well, the truth is that DH is actually willing to give hands-on instruction.  He takes DS to do throwing/catching/soccer in the backyard all the time.  Often, DS does not want to go and I can't blame him.  For example, DH and DS were out at 7am in the back yard throwing today.  But DH can't help himself and critiques just about every throw.  So for every "better" or "that's good" there are about 15-20, "No, elbow higher!" "Glove in front, how can you catch like that?"  "What are you doing, stop spinning your glove." etc.  Like, DH feels he *is* being constructive and therein lies the conflict.[/quote]

I think you need to make it safe/ok for your kids to refuse to participate with him/in sports based on this.

I might also do what the last poster suggested - you take over all the driving, etc. Just put your foot down and don't allow these interactions to occur. I am in no way blaming you b/c this is your a-hole husband's problem, but talk is not cutting it.  He's not going to get it through his head until there are consequences.[/quote]

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