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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Anonymous wrote:
Just no. It’s like dating at work but worse because your kid is involved

+1. I would never date a parent at my child's school. I would never date a co-worker. Same reasoning. [/quote]

Nah. Dating a co-worker risks getting fired. Dating someone at school or day care, if it goes south, eh it's awkward but so what, the school can't fire you.[/quote]

Ugh. Quit mansplaining me. [b][Quit womoaning.][/b]  You are explaining the problem from the man’s perspective [b][and you are now going to womoan from the woman's perspective][/b]  - yes, of course, you run little risk in the playschool environment because as you say you can’t get fired. Also, men are rarely called out for any kind of sexual assault or harrassment or other creepiness unless it rises to the level of a provable in a court of law crime with tangible physical evidence - so you’re protected there as well. [b][If, as you say, men can't be "called out" or punished for sexual harassment unless the allegation can be proven - and I certainly don't agree with that - that would be a [i]good thing[/i]. Nobody should be convicted of a serious offense unless there is [i]tangible proof[/i].][/b]

I am saying you should consider the problems asking her out creates for HER. [b][It creates [i]no problems[/i] for any adult woman. There, done.][/b] If she says yes and it falls apart, she risks retaliation from you.[b] [Retaliation? Like what? What am I going to do to another parent at preschool? I have no power or influence over her at all.][/b] If she says yes and it continues it puts her in a vulnerable position to be leveraged by you in some way.[b] [How? What "leverage" could I possibly exert? Specifics, please.][/b]  If she says yes and somehow her ex finds out it could create custody problems for her. [b][Absolute bullshit. If she is divorced, then she can date whoever she wants.][/b] If she says no, then she also risks retaliation from you.  [b][Again, retaliate how? What could I possibly do?][/b]

It takes the preschool environment, which should be one of safety where she can focus on her child and complicates it. [b][It creates no "complications" for a mature adult. She says yes or no, whatever she prefers, and that's that.] [/b]Just like asking people out in your work environment warps work from a safe place where everyone focuses on the work at hand and moves forward by merit to a place where personal interests create tension. [b][I disagree that preschool is "just like" work. Fundamentally different.][/b] Same with school.

Work, school, and other mandatory environments are not personal chum pools for guys to swim around in to get their egos (and other parts stroked). [b][In fact it is the women who get their egos stroked when men approach them.][/b] [/quote]

The prospect of "retaliation" and "complications" at pre-school / day care are, in fact, much more serious [i]for the man[/i] in this scenario than the woman. Every day care and preschool that I know of has been run almost entirely by women - and certainly, the director is always a woman. If Joe approaches Larla for a date, and Larla is annoyed, and Larla complains to the administration of the day care / preschool, it is practically guaranteed that the (female) director will take Larla's word for it about what happened (because: Team Woman) and could well go so far as to kick Joe's kid(s) out of the day care / preschool. But let's say Joe breaks up with her and she takes it poorly and starts stalking and harassing him, and lying in wait for him outside the day care. If Joe complains to the day care administration, [i]nothing [/i]will happen to Larla in that case.[/quote]

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