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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My uncle was married to a woman with severe dementia who was bed ridden for about 15 years (I mean she was ill for 15 years). He wasn't on dating websites, but he did find a life companion who he spent his time with. She eventually moved in and lived with him and his wife for her last 5 years. Once his wife died, my uncle and his girlfriend got married. It was sad all around but no one blamed him. He missed some of the best years due to his wife's illness (he's too old for kids now), but he cared for his wife for her entire life. My uncle's new wife is a very kind woman too. Just a bad situation. [/quote]

So basically he took advantage of a poor sick spouse, a form of elder abuse imo. Even moving the horrible woman into to their home. Well he's a special kind of peach.[/quote]

What?! I think you read this wrong. He put his life on hold to care for his spouse. She was pretty much a vegetable most of this but he kept her at home. You expected him to not even have a girlfriend? If his wife hadn’t been so ill he would have been with her only I’m sure.

She wasn’t elderly btw and doctors encouraged him to divorce so that the spouse wouldn’t deplete all of his savings caring for her. [/quote]

Yes, per his marital vows.[/quote]

Pp here. It was lonely and I think he just craved friendship most of all. I couldn’t imagine caring for someone who couldn’t give that back to me without an incredible support system. My family is extremely conservative and they all were okay with it. You’d be hard pressed to judge. I truly think him and his new wife love each other.

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You are not extremely conservative or you are fakes if you are saying any part of it is ok.  I have been a long term care giver and if it were my spouse I'd never ever cheat on him.    He can have friendships without an affair.  I love how religious people always find exemptions and excuses to breaking the rules.[/quote]

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