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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It would be bother me too, but in the end be grateful she is close enough to her "bonus mom" to use that terminology. A child can never have too much love.[/quote]

This. If a kid chooses to call a stepparent “Mom” or “Dad,” it would be foolish for anyone to correct that. Kids know who their parents are. And if they choose to call a stepparent a term of endearment, then great. It means they feel loved and safe and close. Those are all good things. Anyone, be it parent or stepparent, who steps in to correct that is being petty and making it about the adults. No kid asked for their parents to split up. To then try to control what labels they give the adults around them is selfish. [/quote]

No, its selfish to call a parent a parent when they are not.  Kids have two parents and that should be respected.  They can have a good relationship with a stepparent and call them by their first name.  How would you feel if you were replaced and your child called someone else mom or dad?[/quote]

It’s. Not. About. You. [/quote]

Exactly.  You teach your kids appropriate boundaries on who is mom and dad and who is not.  You may replace your spouse but you cannot replace your child's parent.  I'm going to assume those ok with it are parents who got remarried and replaced their spouses and make up all kinds of nonsense about the other parent when they are to blame for the failed marriage.[/quote]

Divorced mom here. My sons stepmother (also called mom) is amazing!!  She is totally a partner in raising this kid. She’s so great at finding ways for him to be creative and she has a ton of patience to make elaborate LEGO structures. I’m terrible at those things. Girl can also *always* find a sale on whatever are the cool clothes of the minute. It in no way takes away from the fact that I gave birth to my son and am his real mom. [/quote]

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