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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My little brother has a July birthday and started on time.  My parents regretted it beginning in middle school or so.  He hit puberty later, had trouble making athletic teams, and just seemed younger than many of his peers.  He was always really bright, and ended up doing very well on his LSAT, and got into a top law school.  But from my perspective, he never really felt like he fit in until he took a year off between college and law school.  
There is a thread just below this one where a teacher talks about how most of school is about social emotional development and learning how to navigate relationships.  If your child is behind in this area, that seems to be a bigger impediment than fine motor skills.  [/quote]

This assumes that if only your parents had held him back, all would be well.  I mean, perhaps some of it would have resolved by holding him back, but it's impossible to prove either way.  For example, it's possible your brother matured during his year off, but it's also possible that there is something else that happened during that year that was really impactful in a positive way.  Or both.

I have a brother with an August bday who started on time.  I also started on time with a fall bday (age 4 at start of K).  My bro dropped out of college for a bit and still struggles to some extent, but I don't attribute this outcome to him being young for his grade.  In contrast, I had a Ph.D. by my mid-20s and have a pretty stable life.

It seems some people are putting too much emphasis on redshirting as a panacea for difficulties/vulnerabilities in temperament, anxiety (get your kids treated if it's interfering, don't hold them back!), learning differences, and other variables, and then attributing all struggles from K forward to a lack of redshirting.[/quote]

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