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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was reading the other threads on this topic and it reminded me that I'm curious about SAHMs of school aged kids.

I work full time but I'm not crazy about my job and we don't need the money. Every time I come home complaining about one of my co workers or the workload (upper management refuses to hire extra staff to lessen it), my DH says "why don't you quit and stay home with the kids?"

I didn't want to do this when they were little but now that they are both easier to manage and in school all day, I am tempted.

Has anyone else quit to stay home once their kids started school? What was it like? Were you bored or did you feel fulfilled?

I have to admit, being able to do whatever I want for six hours a day sounds sooo nice right now!

Also I shouldn't h ave to say this but I obviously do: please no trolling. If you can't think of anything nice to say, just don't say anything at all.[/quote]

If you are financially in a place where you can do it why not leave your current job and see how it goes at home. See how you feel about not working at one month, three months, and six months. If you feel like you are missing something, look for jobs that you might be interested in and that fit your life style and apply for them. Or look into volunteering. I have started helping with my DS Cub Scout Pack and there is a ton that can be done. I am sure there is a good amount you could do at your kids schools. Or do you have a charity that is important to you that you can volunteer for?

I would have a serious conversation with your DH before taking this step. Work out a very specific budget and asks yourselves if this is something that you can really afford to do and live how you want to live.

I say this only because it might feel like you don't need the money, I have no idea who you are so I can't honestly comment on that, but what happens if your DH gets sick or loses his job? Are you ok for a while?

My Dad made a lot of money and Mom stayed at home with us. It was a good life, we had a nice house, lived in a great community, took some nice vacations. Mom and Dad saved for retirement and for us to go to college. My Dad feel ill when I was in high school, my younger brother was in a private junior high, and my older siblings were in college. I don't think Dad held a full time job for more then 6 months after he was well enough to go back to work, and that took about 5 years.

Mom ended up going back to work. They sold the house that they had lived in as soon as my younger brother graduated from high school and moved into a town home. They are fine, Dad really did make a ton and saved a lot for retirement. They didn't have to dip into any of that because Mom went back to work. But Mom went from SAHM to full time working after 20 years out of the job market. She ended up working for 20 years after that. She worked at jobs that she really liked but I am not so sure that she was working because she loved it or because she was worried about their finances.

Your leaving work will be a transition for the family. Outside of the loss of money, it does put more pressure on your husband to provide a pay check. It does mean that you will be seen as more responsible for all things at the home. It is a shift and there is nothing wrong with the shift but it is more then just the lost of a pay check. [/quote]

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