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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I love my 6 year old. I enjoy building with him, playing games with him, helpinghis Cub Scout Den out, baking with him, reading to him and all that. I would be devestated if anything happened to him. Utterly devestated.

I also knew right away I did not want a second child. I never struggled with dropping him off at day care. Honestly, I beat myself up because I was happy to go back to work. I knew he was in a great program and that we had worked our schedules so he would only be there for 6 hours a day. And I really liked being around adults and adult conversation, such as it is.

And as much as I love my child, I know that I would have been happy if I hadn’t had a child. I don’t feel like there would have been this gaping void in my life. I totally get my friends who have chosen not to have kids. I don’t think they are making a mistake or a missing out on something.

I would fall a part of anything happened tomy little man. I love the sound of his giggle and his snuggles. I cherish carrying him to bed and being with him. Another part of me understands that there is life without kids.  Don’t dread his growing up.

Is that what you mean?[/quote]

This is exactly how I feel and mine is 7. Exactly. I think part of the problem is social media. People I know post pictures of when their kids were babies and caption it with “oh, how I would give anything to go back in time and cuddle this little baby! My baby is growing up too fast! Make time slow down!” . And here I am not being able to identify with that at all. I’m fine with my kid growing up. That’s what he’s supposed to do. I’m more excited to see what the future holds for him than wishing I could go back in time and that he would stay little forever. I think because social media is in our face so much it makes us compare ourselves to others and then we feel like we’re the outliers when it’s a completely normal way to feel. [/quote]

So do you truly never wish you could go back and hold your little baby for a few minutes? And do you think people literally mean they would want their children to stay little forever? Genuinely curious. I don’t think anyone would actually want to take care of a little baby forever, or is truly sad that their child is growing up, but maybe I’m wrong...?[/quote]

Different poster - I don't really wish I could go back and hold my child as a baby, cute as he was. I didn't enjoy the baby period and was glad to go back to work. I really only started to enjoy parenthood once my child was interactive. I have a toddler and a baby now and I am waiting anxiously for the baby to get older. Maybe I'll feel differently when the kids are teenagers.[/quote]

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