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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]9 kids in my family. You basically don't get to develop a deep parenting relationship with each individual kid. There are other benefits for the kids (independence, fun, family belonginess) but a lot fewer parental resources for each one.

[b]I think 4 kids is really the max if you want to be close to your lids[/b]. [/quote]
Based on your one experience. It really depends on financial situation; what you can hire out. The temperament of your children. So many things. 
We have hashed and rehashed the really large families on this board and had all the haters come out. OP is talking about four here, not fourteen. [/quote]

How many people can have 4+ kids and still afford to "hire out" to a significant degree?  Also hiring out doesn't really solve the issue of individualized attention.  My family had paid help, and they couldn't really pay attention to individual kids either.  [/quote]
Lots of people in this area can afford it. I’m a SAHM to more than four, and we hire stuff out. I personally know 6-7 others in the same situation although it’s not representative given my husband is in a high paying job. 
Just because you can’t fathom it, or don’t like it, doesn’t mean it can’t work. [/quote]

you can't hire out parental 1:1 time with the kids.  If you have 4 under 8 to put to bed, everyone is getting 1 bedtime story all together.  [/quote]
You seem really rigid about this 1:1 time. There are two parents. So one parent could take two kids each. Or one parent could take three and the other child gets alone time. Or maybe two kids are older and don’t want stories read to them, and each parent takes one of the younger kids. Or - gasp! - they all do bedtime together and have great memories all cuddle up together. All of these options are great. [/quote]

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