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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I feel the same way.  What really blows my mind is friends who have quit their jobs and sacrificed financially so they came stay home with kids.  They want to stay home with kids so badly that they don’t mind NOT contributing to retirement, rarely shopping, limited vacations, etc.  They’ve given up their identity as well and they don’t even mind.  I could never do that.  [/quote]

To each their own.  I have known women who did that and loved it. More power to them. That was not the path I wanted to take but they are thrilled to be home with their kids.  And I enjoy the vacations and the savings and the retirement fund growing and all of that. But, more importantly, it felt right for me. I am not going to judge others for making a decision that felt right to them.

I had no clue if I was going to stay at home with my child or go back to work. We left that decision until the baby came and I saw how I reacted to everything. IIf I had fellt awful leaving him at day care, and that feeling didn’t wane as we all got into a routine, I would have stayed home. That was not how I felt so I kept working. It was the right decision for me.

The people who I feel bad for are the people who cannot do what they want to do. I know women who want to stay home but financially cannot afford to. I know that there are women who would like to work but they have a special needs child that requires them stay at home.

And yes, there are days I miss the baby and snuggling him in the rocking chair. I still carry him to bed every night because I know one night I won’t be able to. And I sit in his room every night while he falls asleep because he likes it and one day he won’t. But the change will come when it comes and we will be doing new and different things that will be fun and exciting. But I don’t miss those days so much that I want another child.

If I had a second child I am sure I would have loved the child and I would have been fine but I did not have an over whelming desire for a seond child. I love my life as it is and am excited to see where it goes.  [/quote]

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