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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Call the AD and simply ask:

Is DC's position on the WL high enough that they may be made an offer of Admission by deposit deadline ( March ? 21st )

If the AD hedges at all..... that is a NO and go with the school that wants your child and don't look back

Once you are inside many schools are different that your first impression . The ADs have been doing this for decades most of them.

You are on your 1st rodeo, likely

If they REALLY wanted your DC or want them on high WL they would have admitted your DC or high WL them [/quote]

Very helpful! Should I avoid mentioning the other school's offer when talking to the top choice's AD? Thank you![/quote]

AD's do talk to each other so this is a reasonable question to ask.

What you DON'T want to do is make the AD of the school that accepted your child ( your 2nd choice school ) aware that they  are, just that: 2nd choice

Especially because if your DC ends up going there you don't want to 1)  have to live that down and 2) you may be surprised to find choice # 2 was actually the better school for your child in the end

I would just stick to the wording:

" insert name of school" is our absolute 1st choice of school for our DC and we want to make clear that if a position becomes available just before deposit deadline, our family will accept and pay full tuition at that time" " However, if you know this is unlikely at this time, we wish to commit to the school that has offered a position as it is our family's position that we want to fully commit to a school by ( deposit date in March)

In other words: present yourself as the OPPOSITE as a bet hedger . You know, the kind of parent that is ruining the whole process for everyone by paying deposits at 2 schools then backing out on May 31st, etc.

Present yourselves as a family who will commit fully at March deadline and if you don't get an offer of admission by the AM of day before , then sign that contract at 2nd choice school and don't look back[/quote]

^^^^^

This is a moron.

No one offers to pay full tuition in March.  It sounds like you’re trying to bring a suitcase full of cash to the table.  Are you from another culture?  Do you know this is likely to raise hackles?  Someone seriously does not understand the culture of private schools.  Genteel.  No talk of money.

Positions on the WL  do not open before the deposit deadline.

If you want a real shot at the WL, you need to be willing to lose the deposit on school that accepted you.  We were at the top of the WL, offered admission by first choice school the day after the deposit deadline.  We lost our deposit, but DC has been so happy at our first choice school we have no regrets.

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