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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Behavior charts are literally the worst, and not at all considered best practice anymore. It is far more effective to incentivize good behavior than to shame and call out the bad.

Go ahead and lottery if you can find a better overall school, but in the meantime, I would ask for a meeting with the teacher, perhaps a school counselor to discuss. What you are describing seems pretty far from the norm.

Silent lunch for first 10 minutes, vs an entire silent lunch are very different things. Which is it OP?[/quote]

I didn't say it was the entire time. They call it silent lunch and we were told it's only the first 10-15 mins of lunch.
I haven't been there during lunch time to confirm this but I'm pretty sure it's the amount of time they're saying.

[b]My kid was terrified at first[/b]. She told me she didn't talk to anyone because she didn't want to eat alone, which, according to her, is what happens if you talk.

She's 6 so take it with a grain of salt but I do know she's not happy.[/quote]

Between this, and the fact that you mentioned that she has a deep fear of the behavior chart... I would talk to the pediatrician about whether you should have her screened for anxiety. While more playtime could help, there may well be something more going on.

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+1.  I'm the other PP who also mentioned anxiety.  It's common that some kids get really hung up on the idea of behavior charts, getting in trouble, etc., whereas others don't give it as much thought.

I agree with talking to ped. or developmental pediatrician--maybe there are some ways to reframe her fears so that she isn't so worried about getting in trouble, and can enjoy school more while she's there.[/quote]

Thank you! We don't do punishments in our home or things like they do in school so maybe this is all just very new to her. She doesn't show signs of anxiety with me, but then again I'm her mom. :)
I will be talking with her ped to make sure there's nothing serious going on.[/quote]

I think at CMI you are likely to have a school psychologist of some sort, since they tend to focus on serving IEP kids etc. This is who you can reach out to. Discuss the signs of anxiety in class, the extreme resistance to going to school. If you're not sure, ask the principal what support staff for such needs the school has. I know they have something because on a tour I saw that cool room with the padding and stuff to climb on... Meanwhile, check out some alternative curriculum schools for lottery but for now make use of the resources you have there. I do know that in our Montessori there would not be such thing as a silent lunch or behavior chart, although there is structure in the sense that there are a lot of rules such as not running, not yelling, not disrupting someone's work, the list is long. It is just how they arrive at getting kids to follow these rules which is different. Your child may carry this anxiety with to a variety of situations so might as well try to help her relax now. [/quote]

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