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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm so sorry OP.

My daughter hasn't gotten to this point yet - I know she was excluded from a couple of birthday parties this year (she's 12) but it didn't seem to faze her b/c she'd been growing away from some of those girls.

[b]Would your daughter be comfortable talking to her "friend"? I know we've all been brought up not to have that sort of conversation (i.e. - it's not polite), but this is different IMO.
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I wouldn't force the issue, but if she's open to it, I'd role play with her. It's good for her to learn to stand up for herself and not be afraid of conflict when it's warranted.

Just my $.02[/quote]

I'm sorry...but I honestly don't understand this approach. What is there to say? Why invite the awkwardness of stating what is already obviously a clear message of "yeah, I preferred to celebrate my birthday with these new friends to the exclusion of you"
Is this going to help OP's DD have clarity? Is there something that the friend could possibly say that would make this...better? Best case scenario she will say something like "sorry...I just didn't think you really fit in with the rest of that group so I didn't think you'd want to come..." which is pretty crappy even if true. Because bottom line is that the birthday girl picked these new friends over the DD.

Move on. Don't confront on matters like this. Take your cue and minimize the interactions. You don't have to do it angrily. But there is no need for a conversation about this unless the point is it make the birthday girl have to say "i'm sorry" (she clearly isn't) and force her to offer some lame explanation that could end up rubbing more salt in the wound.[/quote]

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