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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As a person with Tourettes Syndrome, I was very pro-disclosure. I was lucky enough to grow up in a supportive community and I found that even now giving the facts helps take the air out of anyone's snottiness, particularly if my tics are disrupting a situation. I would echo those who have suggested reaching out to the teacher/parents if possible to figure out what language they've been using with their child. I also think that thinking about strengths and weakness is helpful (though I'm not afraid of the word disability) as it helps NT kids as well as non NT kids to put themselves in context and think about how they can best learn and grow. [/quote]

As the parent of a child with an "invisible" special need I would be put out by someone "reaching out" in in faux empathy. Seriously would you really ask a parent that? What kind of "language" do you use to describe your child's challenges? You seem to be lacking basic social skills.[/quote]

OP again: I certainly wouldn’t do this re Larlo, since I wouldn’t recognize him to look at him and have never met his parents, but I definitely did it for her dyslexic friend whose mom is my friend. Just a simple “hey, Kid was saying she wanted to help Friend learn to read, I told her that’s not really her job and that Friend’s mom and dad are on top of helping Friend in the ways that work well for Friend, is there anything you’d like me to say differently or add to that?” Or if she had a friend with Tourettes I’d definitely ask the parents if there was a particular way they wanted me to explain it to her on the theory that whatever I say is likely to be parroted to the friend. But this is for kids who are her friends and whose parents I know. When she asks me about other people, I usually explain that everyone is different, including every body and every brain, and it’s not polite to speculate or to discuss strangers’ bodies. [/quote]

If a parent is a friend and discloses their child's needs to you it's perfectly acceptable and kind to ask them questions. I have no objections to anything you've said, OP, and think you sound like a thoughtful and considerate person. I was shocked by the person with Tourettes advising you to reach out to the teacher/parents. [/quote]

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