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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She doesn't want to.  Yes, its nice to have involved grandparents but some just aren't willing.[/quote]
Ding-Ding-Ding!  My MIL, who only lives just over an hour away, has never independently come to visit us.  She was only 52 when we were first married, and had been out of the workforce for over a decade at that point.  She complains that she doesn't see us and the kids enough, but refuses to come to us because, "you know I don't drive on unfamiliar roads".  Sometimes DH picks her up and brings her to us and then drops her back off at her house.  She won't take the train to us (station is close to her house and we would pick her up right on the tracks near us).

I understand that this is tied to anxiety, but I just can't understand the unwillingness to overcome it.  Is this a generational thing?  I have only come across this type of behavior in women of my parent's generation or older.  Plenty of people have some anxiety with travel - I am an anxious flyer, but I put on my big girl pants and do it because "you know I just don't fly" won't cut it with my employer.  I think that women who do this have been coddled their whole lives and will never change.[/quote]

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