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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op, aren’t you tired if you just gave birth?

If your kids are 21m apart and it sounds like you want third to be 18m after second.

That really sounds hellish to me. I would only do that if you plan to stay home AND have a full time nanny.

Most parents I know have a 2 year gap between kids and when kids are 1 and 3, it is challenging. Can’t imagine having a newborn too. God that sounds awful.[/quote]

Just to clarify - my first took 5 years, a couple losses, and fertility treatments to have.  We have a Dx that makes natural conception odds low at least statistically though it has happened twice (one of the losses and #2).  My second happened 3mo after my period came back on - so clearly we can get pregnant on our own even if it's a very long shot.

For a 3rd we would likely be on a long journey that requires certain stops along the way like trying for 6 months with no success and then moving on to IUI for 3 rounds before insurance will cover IVF which can easily be a multi year process.  So if I wait until #2 is 2+ its very possible we won't actually have #3 for several more years if at all.  I'm not specifically trying for a very short gap - more if we want a third given my age and our challenges we will need to get moving sooner rather than later on what is likely a very looooong process, but given our experience with #2 I want to make sure I'm prepared for and able to handle the slim possibility it could happen quickly.[/quote]

It's hard to answer this, as you know best what you can handle.  But with 3 kids who are that small, I would assess your finances and caregiver support if you're not a SAHP already.  2 is a lot harder than 1, and 3 kids that small would really do me in.[/quote]

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