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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Have you watched her interacting with other girls?  What do you see, honestly?  Is she shy?  Is she maybe a little too eager (understandable)?

You say she's 12, and that's a time of transition.  Are her peers at school into clothes/makeup, and maybe your daughter still has a little more of the child left in her (understandable)?

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Honestly [b]she is very eager with other girls, I guess because she is so desperate.[/b]  I try to advise her to play it cool with them, but I don't want her to overthink things too much.

You are right that [b]she definitely has more of the child left in her[/b].

I never had trouble with friends.  At her age I had multiple groups of friends with barely any effort.  
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This combo is your answer.  I'm sure of it.

I'm a teacher, by the way, so I see a lot of teen interaction.  [b]My advice is to help your daughter find a hobby or interest she can pursue outside of school, something that really interests her, not something she will see only as another chance to desperately seek friends.  She may naturally make some new friends this way because she won't be focused so much on the process, if you see what I mean.  [/b]

Also, as cold as this sounds, if she is dressing in a way that is noticeably different from her peers (clothes they regard as babyish, or if she's in clothes that signal she doesn't care), this is going to make a difference at that age if the other girls are taking an interest in their appearance.  You could help your daughter update her look, in a fun way.

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The bolded above is exactly what my advice is.  Nurture an interest in an activity.  Something like fencing, rowing or riding can be started later in childhood so she won't be behind the way she would say, for classical ballet.[/quote]

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