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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]thanks for this thread OP. I'm about to turn 30 and am super ambivalent about kids and wonder how I am supposed to know if I want them or not[/quote]

I was too.  My husband and I got married at 27/28, met at 24/25.  We were not interested in kids at all when we met.  It was something long in the future, distant thought.

We loved being DINKS.  We traveled frequently.  We had a group of couple friends that we got together to go out to fancy dinners, happy hours every weekend.  We traveled together too.  We then lived abroad...still no feeling

At 34, I didn't have the feeling--but I felt like something was missing in life.  I was bored with the everyday.  Things seemed less meaningful.  As my parents were getting older the thought of them never meeting my 'future' children weighed on me.

DH and I completely over-analyzed everything about heavy kids.  I had endless, needless worry about the possibility of not liking it once we did it.  I worried endlessly about special needs and defects, etc.

Then one night--we were like 'wth, let's see what happens'.  Well--just like they tell you in Sex ED--I got pregnant on the first try at age 34 (almost 35).  I had an extremely easy pregnancy and delivery---but it wasn't until I held my newborn in my arms that I was a goner.  100%% ga-ga, over the moon in love.    I knew almost immediately I wanted another child.  I wanted them 2.5 years apart and hoped for another boy---and boom---pregnant first try again at 37.

Kids are 10 and 13.  They had a very close relationship with the grandparents, uncles/aunts/cousins.  We have loved every single minute of being parents.

Honestly, it's such a big decision.  I really think the most important decision in anyone's life.  We really took a long time to get there.  I won't say I ever had a 'biological clock feeling'.  But, I think it had to happen the way it did for me to get there.

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