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[quote=Anonymous]I am on the other side of this, kind of.  My parents were the 'all about appearances" but very dysfunctional type.  They'd tell you they never regretted having us kids, but they shouldn't have had kids.  They were and are terrible parents.  Not their fault entirely - years of intergenerational damage and trauma went into making them the way they were.

I have a kid now, and I don't have regrets per se - but I'm very aware of my limitations as a parent.  THe problem is, people lacking insight.  How many parents who think they were fab were actually shit at the job of parenting?  And how many people who don't have kids because they don't have the desire/know they have issues would actually be ok parents?

I'm a supporter of opening up this discussion.  Lots of people shouldn't have kids. Lots of people should have kids.  Not everyone has the skills or the money etc, but for those that do, yay.  It's totally OK to regret having children imo - it shows insight and self awareness, rather than denial.  Not that I'm saying all the people who don't have regrets are in denial - but I'm suspicious that at least some of them are talking out their A$$ and overcompensating.

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