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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I thought it was ok but financially I felt out of place. A lot of the women were quite wealthy and could afford things like housekeepers, night nannies, etc. At times I felt judged for not being from a wealthy family and having modest roots. I think I was one of the only women without an Uppababy or Bugaboo stroller and it bothered me to see the other women examining my baby gear/stroller/car seat/jewelry and trying to size me up when I obviously didn’t fit the mold.

I also struggled with some postpartum challenges and I felt it isolated me from the group. Many women there seemed more interested in staying busy during their maternity leave and building their DC network, in what is essentially new mom version of a cocktail/networking party. That was not how the group advertised itself and not what I had gone in expecting. It sounds like others made lifelong friends but that was not my experience. Maybe it will be better for you. [/quote]

+1.  The ladies in my group all had designer strollers and most seemed at a higher income bracket than myself....My cheap Chicco stroller probably designated me as an outcast from the beginning.  I remember crying after the 3rd meeting when no one invited me to lunch after the meeting and the rest of the ladies paired off...it was miserable for me and I quit going but most on this board rave about so ymmv[/quote]

I'm really sorry you had that experience, PP.  I probably would have felt similarly.  I was SO excited to do PACE, since my mom was a group leader way back in the day.  And then I found out the cost and took a hard pass.  I think that support of other moms is crucial, but making it so expensive virtually guarantees a group more homogenous than I find appealing.  Instead, I did a very low cost, hospital-based group, and it was wonderful.  [/quote]

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