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[quote=Anonymous]Op, you are a great mom. Two things stuck out for me.

1) the first comment was about being a 'real family' (not real mom). So focus on that--what do 'real' families look like, to you sons? hopefully they have been exposed to a variety of family structures--single parents, gay parents, grandparents, etc. There is no one model of a family.

2) I also would explore, at another time, your sons wish that you hadn't told him  he was adopted because it makes him feel weird. This is probably a normal, natural struggle--wait, I have this other...parent...out there....I know my mom loves me, but what about bio mom? mixed feelings are normal and natural and what I think your kids may have been saying is not that you are 'less than' a wonderful mom, but that they are in a different situation than many of their friends and they're trying to understand it at some level.

so, I guess, in a way, Iwould take it less as about you as a parent than about them as kids expressing, in perhaps not a very nuanced way, some of the nuances of being adopted. [/quote]

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