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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What did he study? What kind of job does he want? [/quote]

Liberal arts undergraduate degree - not sure what he wants - he would take any job which pays him $30-45K. Since we, the parents, are STEM educated, we have no clue what he can do. [/quote]

You sound exactly how my parents were like.  By any chance, are you and your spouse immigrants, specifically Chinese or Indian? I was exactly in your son's shoes with an international relations degree graduating in the worse of times in 2008. They kept on pressuring me to go get a professional degree, which my brother did go on to medical school, but I wanted to really get a taste of the real world first. I ended up working at  a law firm and a consulting firm, went to law school after several years and now doing quite well as an attorney.  The most important thing is that he has to have the right disciplined and focused mindset, and not dick around while playing video games all day.[/quote]

Yes we are immigrants. What worries me is not that he wants to work after undergraduate to get a break and to decide his path. He thinks his education is probably done unless he decides later to do any further studies.. He believes he can live fine in $30K salary. He has no experience living in financial hardship all his life. He does not understand how budget works and I am concerned that by the time he understands, it might be too late.

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How can it be too late?  He works for a couple of years, and he either realizes that he needs to get an advanced degree in order to have the kind of job he wants...or he realizes that he doesn't, and he works his way up the career ladder without an advanced degree, like millions of people have before him.  I really don't see the problem.  Advanced degrees are not universally useful--the degree you get depends on the career you want.  In some fields, it's a requirement, but in some, it's nearly worthless.

And frankly, the fact that he doesn't know how a budget works is 100 percent on you and your spouse.  [/quote]

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