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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People are insane. Nothing in your post gave enough information for people to diagnose her with ASD or say she has “real problems.”  Middle school is brutal. Love and support her.  Most girls have these issues. [/quote]

Could not agree more. The Asperger's suggestion is ridiculous. My daughter is like this. I've had to teach her to stop being so polite all the time with her peers. For example, instead of walking up and asking if she can join a group...I tell her just to walk up and join the group. She doesn't need to ask for permission. So many kids are raised to be super competitive around here, and some no basic manners, it's hard for kids that aren't like this to understand the direct/mean nature of some girls.[/quote]

This is so true. My daughter is very empathetic and kind. There are not many like her in 6th grade. We worked pretty hard to get her to a point where she can be a little tougher and not care so much what other kids think. Telling her about my awkward middle school years helped a lot and also that high school and beyond are much better. It is a shame that the mean girls are also the popular ones. Why is that???

As an aside, with my encouragement, I had her run for SGA office. She had an excellent platform, talked to many kids about what changes they want to see and ran her ideas by the VP to see what can be implemented. I was present for her presentation and she rocked it. All the kids and parents in the audience clapped for her the loudest. Her competitor went after her and you could barely hear her as she giggled through her speech. her ideas were along the lines of putting a lounge in the girl's bathroom and having half day Fridays. She also said she is against bullying despite being extremely mean and brutal to kids. Guess who won??? Not my daughter. She was upset and I at that point I realized just how unfair life really can be for some people. We used it as a teaching moment and she has since heard that even the most unpopular kids voted for the other girl because they thought that would bump their social status.

So just tell her to distance herself, give her the courage to go sit with another less nasty group at lunch (they are there and she should just go and sit with them without really asking) and just role play at home to make her more comfortable speaking up for herself which is not easy for a lot of people to do, kids and adults.

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NP.  You took your DD’s race way too seriously. Sounds like it was doomed from the start. They are popularity concerts and always will be, sorry to say. [/quote]

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