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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You need to use the good education you got to get a higher paying job. You don’t have the luxury of working at a non profit like a trust fund kid. This has been how it is for immigrant families forever. That’s why all the children become doctors lawyers and mbas. Hate the harsh truth OP. Use your elite connections you have made and go get a high paying job.[/quote]
What bulls**** is this??
 OP has a right to work and create a life that she enjoys that she finds peaceful that she finds purposeful .
 Yes we all should help our families in the ways that we can but we do not have to carve out a life that is primarily just rescuing people who make bad financial decisions  .
At some point, we need to let our kids have their own lives and damn sure they are not obligated to completely finance the future of OTHER kids I brought into the world . Help, assistance and support are one thing, but it's not her obligation to sustain her entire family. She might as well have stayed poor.
 And by the way PP not everybody wants to be an MBA or a doctor or a lawyer there are 1 million myriad careers and job path that everybody has a right to choose for themselves .[/quote]

That’s a very American way of thinking. OP comes from an Asian immigrant background whose father has scrificed everything not for her to behave like a trust fund girl. That’s how generations of immigrants pulled themselves up by their bootstraps. OP and her brother have an obligation to their family. Simply she doesn’t have the luxury to ape her rich peers, fullstop.[/quote]
WTH !
 Everybody who works at a nonprofit I know they have a trust fund baby .
You do realize that there are people who are immigrants who scrape and work themselves out a pa you do realize that there are people who are immigrants scrape and work themselves out of poverty.  You do realize that right ?
 Foolish, ridiculous, dumb ass futile way of thinking and behaving for every generation to try and bankrupt themselves to finance the prior generation .
You provide assistance support help in the ways that you can while you are still building your future so your damn kids don't have to support you.
 You help your parents in the ways that you can teach your siblings and your relatives to make smarter financial decisions so everybody's not going into debt so everybody else and have to bail them out .
 What you're talking about is not family help or support what you're talking about is honestly a poverty mentality .   It's a ghetto a** way of thinking that is not helpful . [/quote]

OP's parents are not living a lavish lifestyle.  They've sacrificed everything including their own retirement just to put their kids into good schools in foreign countries and helping their children make it to the US.  They sacrificed everything in the world including their own security to ensure that their first two children can have a better life than they had.  And they are tapped out for their last two children.  OP and her brother owe it to the family to help put the younger two children through school and college.  After that, they can leave supporting their parents in their deserved retirement up to the younger two.

PP says that OP and her brother need to give some hard love to the parents about making smarter financial decisions.  If they were to make "smarter" financial decisions, then OP and her brother would be working low or middle class jobs in India without any potential for a better life for them or their children.  That's how families stay in poverty for generations.  OP's parents made the decision to break the cycle of poverty and help push their children out and up.  The older siblings can turn their backs on their family or they can help pull the younger siblings with them so that all the children can give their children a better future.   That's the Asian way.  You clearly do not understand it.[/quote]

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