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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As an Asian (Chinese American, not Indian American), I understand the familial obligation and sympathize.  I think at a minimum, you owe your younger siblings an education like you got.  Your parents sacrificed everything to get you out of poverty to a better life here in the US.  You owe the younger siblings the same.  If you don't make much working at a non-profit, I would take a second part-time job to make more money to send so that your siblings can get a decent enough education to get a similar push out of poverty as you had.  After they graduate from school, they can give back by helping to support your parents in their old age.  Another option is to consider working towards a better paying job than working in non-profit so that you make more money and can send more back.

That said, you should send what you can afford by cutting back on disposable income.  Don't strip yourself of the ability to pay rent or necessities, but cutting out extraneous expenses or luxuries is the type of sacrifice that should be made.

I know that it is difficult to have such an obligation, but it really is not fair to abandon your parents and siblings just because you were oldest.  It is definitely not the Asian mentality to abandon family like that.  I'm sorry that you have that burden, but if I were in your shoes, I would not be able to sleep or enjoy any of the fruits of my income if I did not send what I could back to the family. [/quote]

Yes to all of this. [/quote]

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