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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think the only problem is the “I” in your post.

What does your husband think?
And do you think your kids would be on board? Have they expressed interest in a sibling?[/quote]

Kids don't get a vote on whether they have a sibling.  If that were the case, half the children in America wouldn't be born.[/quote]

I think in this case, they should. 3 kids are already a lot (I have 3 too) and there’s no way those kids don’t want more of their mom’s attention, especially given that she works out of the home. An adopted child would already look and feel different, the last thing they’d need is for their new siblings to totally resent that he or she is there and make a difficult process even more difficult.[/quote]

OP - wow, watch yourself. Hopefully we are raising our kids to be more conscientious and kind then you. The child would “look and feel different”? FWIW our family is already biracial.[/quote]

Kids can still feel different even if they are mixed as you are if you have 3 biological kids.  For us, we spent maybe around $60K trying to adopt so in less you do foster adopt, it will easily be $20-80K.[/quote]

OP - You must have missed the part when I said I am adopted myself and have extensively researched the country we want to adopt from.[/quote]

I read that you are adopted BUT, its very hard on kids when they are the only "adopted" child in a large family.  Also, if you are going out of the country are you prepared for SN and the adjustment period of an older child?[/quote]

+1 And who will take care of your other kids while you go overseas to pick up your fourth child (potentially for an extended period if paperwork drags on)? [/quote]

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