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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Have a weekly marriage meeting.  Stephen Covey talks about it in his book 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families.  But there are tons of blog articles on how to have a marriage meeting.  We have a marriage meeting on Saturday nights.  We have a sitter, and we go out.  The first hour of our date night we get some drinks, bring planners, and talk about tasks that need to be done the upcoming week.  I still do the bulk of everything, but at least DH knows what I am doing, and I know what he is doing, and we share the "mental load."  
Also, that mental load isn't that bad if you have everything written in a to do list for yourself and pull it out when you have time, rather than trying to run through everything you need to do over and over again.  
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My DH is restless and always in motion while I am more likely to read in my downtime.  We talk about what needs to get done that week. We don’t have a date night out or a set time.  Typically we watch a 1/2 hour show that we both like  (often HGTV) and talk about that.  Then we will go into what needs to be done for the week as much because with our kids activities we have to plan it out.  I am forgetful so anything critical that isn’t already in my calendar I use the reminder app on the phone and type it in right then.  We each end up taking on the things that are more in our wheelhouse and we don’t micromanage the other person’s tasks.  The bigger daily things like dinner, dishes, morning drop off and afternoon pickup are somewhat dictated by work schedules. There is also a fine line where you accept that the other person isn’t you but you do expect them to complete what they say they would.[/quote]

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