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Not to worry, if I fall, you'll already be down so you can break my fall.  Your not posting anything supportive and is very hurtful to someone already anxious and who has a lot of money, time and emotions invested.  Start your own thread to talk about birthparents rights and needs.[/quote]

It's great that you have decreed by fiat that most post is very hurtful, but I haven't said anything that OP doesn't agree with.  All I have said is that I agree with a PP who said that birth parents should not be pressured into an adoption and should be given time to decide.  On the final post of the second page, OP said that she agrees with this.  And honestly, I would hope that everyone would agree with this and never would have thought of that as a controversial proposition.  That you seem to want to conflate my comments with some other's comments that arguably are hostile to adoption is misguided.  I am not hostile at all, and as I said before, I hope OP's adoption goes through smoothly.

Finally, it is really hard to completely separate OP's question - 'Did an adoption fall through at the hospital' - with the issue of a birth mother's rights.  Why?  Because one of the main reasons that an adoption may fall through at the last minute is that a birth mother changes her mind.  I guess in your mind a "supportive" and therefore appropriate response would that no, adoption almost never fall through, and that everything will be puppy dogs and rainbows.  But that's not true all the time, but again, hopefully it will be for OP.[/quote]

Again, this has nothing to do with anything you are talking about and OP is looking for support and experiences for her, not the birth mom.  Absolutely adoptions fall through for many reasons and she is looking for reassurances her's will be ok which no one can give which is why we aren't sharing our horror stories.  Mine probably can top everyones but its not a competition nor would I want to scare anyone out of adopting.  This has nothing to do with the birthmom's needs and that should be a separate thread.[/quote]

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