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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Did I post this? At a 3yr old birthday  today my friend had on a Batman shirt, and was pretending to be Batman and I mentioned how my son is obsessed with Batman right now and one of the moms quickly said “oh we don’t do super heroes, we stick to pbs,  I hope this doesn’t limit his play with the other children.” [/quote]

We "don't do" TV other than old school Mr. Rogers but our 2.5yo recognizes Spider Man and Elmo from toys at daycare.  Now I'm looking for books that feature Spider Man, as I like the idea of super heroes, just not the flashing lights of the cartoons.[/quote]

“We” meaning you and whoever else in addition to the kid?  The only tv you all watch is “old school” Mr. Rogers?[/quote]

Yes, the only TV ever on in our house when our child is awake is the occasional throwback Mr. Rogers episode (Amazon Prime video).  Saying "we don't do" something strikes me as an appropriate way to explain that our child is not exposed to other TV shows.  We also "don't do" juice at home or daycare (where it is not allowed), but we do let our kid have juice on rare occasions when out with a friend (when it makes him act like a drunken fool).  Later, when our child asks for juice at home, I explain that we "don't do" that in our house.  Just like we "don't do" the carousel at the zoo unless we are visiting with friends (because a carousel habit would get expensive).  I think that the phrase "we don't do" describes the rules of your own house as applied to your children.  I wouldn't use the phrase when there are different rules applicable to, say, DS1 and DS2.[/quote]

But if you wouldn't use the phrase if the rules are different for DS1 and DS2, why would you not discriminate the phrase when it applies to the rules you (the adult) live by vs DS1 or DS2?  It's the Royal We that drives me crazy in adults who obviously "do" more tv than, say, Mr. Rodgers, just not with the kid.  Just own up to whatever rules you've set for your kid -- it's OK to admit that you don't hold yourself up to the same high standard.  My husband and I openly eat candy in front of our 2 year old, who "doesn't do candy" because it's "grown up food", much the way the coffee or wine she sees us drinking is.  Nothing wrong with those boundaries!   [/quote]

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