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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]+1. I'm a high earning female. If I were single, I wouldn't be interested in men who make less in most cases. I don't want to feel like I'm wearing the pants in the relationship. Men should have the means and inclination to take control- in all facets of life.[/quote]

and I'm the opposite. I'm invested in my career, although it is not high powered in a financial sense. Its a job that comes with travel, status and some public eye stuff and[b] I would love to have a wonderful, chill SAHD as my partner[/b]. If I made another 100k a year, then I think DH would do that, maybe do some consulting or writing in his down time. Its very hard to have 2 career driven types if you also want a family..  often joke that we need a sister wife...[/quote]

So you say, but in reality you'd rapidly lose respect for him, regard him as a worthless parasite, and eventually cheat on him or divorce him.[/quote]

I'm not that poster but our situations are similar.  I make a healthy income and my job comes with travel and status.  My DH has a flexible, low-paying job and he does the bulk of dropoff, pickup, chauffering and grocery shopping.  Not only do I not lose respect for him, I cherish what he brings to the marriage and I am under no illusion as to whose efforts allow me to jet off to Jakarta for two weeks without much worry about the kids. And we have three. [/quote]

Uh huh. Well, report back when you're both 65 and you are still married to your kitchen and shopping bitch. Until then, the fact remains that when the woman makes more than the man, the odds of divorce significantly increase. [/quote]

NP. It just comes down to respect. If the "kitchen and shopping bitch" is really competent at all of the things he does, and brings something else to the table (deep knowledge about something valuable to the wife, social competence/likability, intelligence, high fitness level, etc.) then the wife can definitely maintain respect and regard her DH as a safe space away from the stress of her demanding job. The cases where divorce occurs are when the wife discovers that her husband not only sucks in the work world but also sucks at everything else he does and is essentially another child. [/quote]

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