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[quote=Anonymous]Your house, your rules.  Their house.  Let this go.   This is different if your parents live nearby, see your kid for Sunday dinner, watch her while you work, etc.  And don’t compromise on health, safety, welfare.  Kids sit in car seats. Full stop. They wear bike helmets. Full stop. But for the little stuff, keep your eye on long term.  Grandparents won’t be there forever.  If they are otherwise good grandparents, this will be an important relationship for both the kids and the grandparents. Don’t sweat the little stuff. In the long term, it does not harm your kid at all if they have more freedom to leave the table at the grandparents.  When the grandparents visit, hold the line more on discipline in terms of household rules, but let them sneak in candy or carry the kid instead of stroller.  Kids get that rules in our house and rules in other people house might be different.

Also— one parent being the “fun parent” and the other being the disciplinarian is a bad dynamic. Parents being the disciplinarians and raising a decent human being is their job. Grandparents loving unconditionally and spoiling some is their job.  This is not a bad dynamic.  Yep.  It sucks to be the disciplinarian sometimes. But thems the breaks. [/quote]

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