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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Our kids exchange gifts with each other. Sometimes they make something at school for us.

Otherwise[b], I really don’t want my kids to give me presents[/b]. [/quote]

I’m curious about this. Why don’t you want your kids to experience giving a gift? As PPmentioned, I think it’s good to teach kids the joy of giving a gift. [/quote]

Because my husband’s side of the family is SO into gifts for adults and the younger generation feels obligated to give the parents gifts and there’s pouting from the parents if they don’t get precisely what they want (these are not people who need others to buy them gifts, trust me). I find the whole thing so distasteful and it reeks of “if you don’t buy me exactly what is on this list you don’t love me enough.” So I have zero interest in ever creating some culture of forced gift giving.

And they do give gifts, to each other. Part of the deal with their allowance is that they need to budget with that money to pick out birthday and Christmas gifts for each other. Before they were old enough for an allowance, I took them separately to the store and we looked for something they thought their sibling would like and I helped them wrap it and such. They also pick out gifts to give their friends for birthday parties. And if they make us something at school, we are of course grateful and enthusiastic in our praise of their creation. [/quote]

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