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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Some men really care. Do not marry one of those.  My husband said when we were dating that he required his future wife to make at least $100,000 a year.  I almost broke up with him. I wish I did. [/quote]

Why? Women require women to earn a certain salary. You can’t ask for him to make a ton if you don’t. Stop being sexiest.[/quote]

I made a ton. I was not being sexist. But it is a bad attitude if you expect  a woman to have your children and expect them to make that much money.  Being a woman and a professional and having children is usually way harder than being a man and being a professional and having children.  And for a man to just expect that means he’s looking for a wallet and not a wife.  It is not a good dynamic for a marriage—trust me.[/quote]

Many involved fathers who are expected to earn the big bucks and be a father to his kids. Women look for a wallet - why can’t men? [/quote]

+1. It was not a good dynamic for you because you expected your husband to support you. If you want to be equal, that means making equal pay. [/quote]

I only expected to be supported for a couple of years—if there were kids. Due to his “requirement” I only agreed to the marriage because he said fine not having kids. He pulled a bait and switch and pressured me for a kid. One time unprotected—instant kid. He Also demanded that I follow his career to another state where I could not have the same amount of earning power permanently and my career got completely screwed. Can’t expect a woman to make that kind of money moving follow your career and have kids and not be royally resentful. If you expect me to continue earning that kind of money which I did for most of the marriage until my career got canceled because I was not in the right location then you shouldn’t of expected me to move and follow him and have his kid. I only got six weeks of maternity leave because my job is too demanding so screw all of you I think it’s absolutely OK to man to have such a ridiculous requirement and then not expect to compromise at all. Saying you won’t marry a woman who make less than $100,000 a year is absolute insanity because most women do not make that kind of money. [/quote]

Woman who makes well north of 100k here. I think many professional men do see a woman with high earning power as attractive because of the lifestyle boost. A man making 200k has an okay life, but add a partner also making that and now you're really doing well. So I don't think it is out of bounds for man to seek women with high incomes (given he has one too). Marriage is about many things apart from romance, and lifestyle is high on the list. Yes, I have kids and have made six figures since I married.

Where your husband went wrong was by forcing a move that didn't enable you to make a good income. That's just a strategically poor choice and he has only himself to blame. [/quote]

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