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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No, OP.  Just no.

We will complain about you and your parenting style compared the past. Deal with it (whithout running off to your "safe space").

You millenials are the most self-absorbed, narcissistic, infantile generation ever.  Your so immature, they now have offer remedial classes to adult millenials just to learn how to "adult!"

https://www.kxnet.com/news/bismarck-news/-adulting-classes-teach-millennials-basic-adult-life-skills/1663377272

Pathetic.  I can only imagine what confused little brats you must be raising.
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Preach!  My oldest is 29. Youngest is 16.  I have a foot in both worlds. The difference is truly astounding. [/quote]

Huh? So you’re saying you did a crap job of raising your first kid but got your act together for your second?[/quote]

Not at all.  I have four successful adult children.  All college grads. All with zero student loan debt and great jobs.  I have every reason to believe my 16 year old will do just as well.  But I’ve watched the differences in parenting over the last 30 years. It truly is astounding.  When my oldest was younger, parents trusted and respected teachers. We didn’t contact them daily with a constant list of “concerns”. We didn’t enroll our kids in 10 different “enrichment” activities. We didn’t pour over college applications, help with essays, or prep our kids like crazy for tests. We dropped our kids off at birthday parties and didn’t hover over them at the playground. The idea of calling a college professor over a grade would have seemed absolutely inplausible. And it never occurred to us that our adult kids would move home after college.

So yes.  Things have drastically changed. [/quote]

Agree.

There are even names for the "bad parent behaviors" you describe:

lawnmower parents = parents who REMOVE or mow down any challenges facing their kids & make everything super easy for the kid.  This prevents kids developing resilience or "grit" and sets them up for failure.

helicopter parents = those who hover over their kids 24/7 (usually out of irrational fear; fear fueled by the Internet).  This bad behavior also leads to unhealthy dependence, lack of independence, and lack of resilience.

[b]Millenials engage in both of these bad behaviors; they can tell you the latest about whats trending on Twitter, but they are too frightened to look at themselves in the proverbial mirror, and ask if they are doing a good job of parenting? [/b]

Stop twitting, stop being a twit, and look for what traditionally WORKS for raising successful kids (hint:  it isn't coddling them).  [/quote]

Honestly--do you know any Millennials and know them well? Or are you recycling stereotypes from memes you see on Facebook? Because this is so weird to me.

I am a Millennial, mother of two, and it is often shocking to me how consciously my peers (and my husband, a Gen Xer, and I) are raising our kids. We read book after book. We think about how to respond instead of yelling or spanking. We discuss discipline, behavior, child sleep patterns, etc. ad nauseum. My in laws -- boomers -- literally laugh at us, saying they never thought about parenting this much, they just winged it. My parents also didn't give a whole lot of thought to parenting.

So, boomers, which is it? Are we too narcissistic, materialistic, and oblivious to be good parents? Do we spoil the kids rotten because we are lazy and weak? Or are we overthinking what could be a mindless exercise of raising kids, because it isn't as hard as we make it out to be? Do we spoil the kids rotten because we are neurotic?

Also, have you looked in the proverbial mirror at all? I'm not sure you should be so comfortable with what your generation has done to the world. Who do you blame for the current state of things?[/quote]

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